Monday, March 17, 2014

Is This Normal?

There are so many aches and pain during pregnancy.  At times it is hard to tell what it is concerning and what is not.  A huge question I have been asked lately is, “When should I  call my doctor? Is this normal?”  The thing about pregnancy is, so much is going on with your body and everyone is different.  You can not pinpoint a “norm” because what may be completely normal for one woman, could be concerning for another.

It is very rare that women fly through pregnancy with ease and never have a situation where calling the doctor is necessary.  If you are one of those women, I am jealous!  I managed to have kidney stones, pyelonephritis (kidney infection), hyperemesis, fluid leak at 27 weeks, the list goes on.  Like you, I questioned, when do I need to all the doctor?  I was always so worried about being an alarmist because so many things feel uncomfortable and are changing during pregnancy.
A rule of thumb is when in doubt, call your doctor or midwife.  You want to be safe than sorry.  I just want to educate you further so when you do call your doctor or midwife you have a bit more knowledge on what you may be calling about.  So many times I went in a nervous wreck when it was nothing or I would go in completely calm and end up at the hospital.  Here are some questionable times for women, normal or not, and when to call your doctor or midwife.

Bleeding can happen in the first trimester and this is because of implantation of the fertilized egg in the lining of the uterus.  No matter what the circumstance, if you have bleeding always call your doctor or midwife.  Especially if it is associated by cramping.

Fluid Leak:
Any fluid leak is tricky because some women can experience some incontinence throughout the pregnancy.  Yup, you could pee yourself.  This can often be confused with thinking your water has broken.  In my own experience, I had some fluid and at first I didn’t really say anything, then I showed my mom and we called the doctor.  When I called the doctor, she said it was probably urine and not to be too concerned.  I called back and they were closed so I got the on-call doctor who brought me right in to the hospital.  I kept having nurses and doctors explain that sometimes you can pee during pregnancy but I knew this wasn’t pee.  They did 3 tests to see what was going on and test the fluid, turns out it was NOT was amniotic fluid.  The story goes on, but back to my point, it is difficult to tell so don’t hesitate to call your doctor or midwife.  If you feel you aren’t getting answers you must be your own advocate!

Frequent Urination:
It is totally normal to be running to the bathroom more than ever before.  The baby can be pressing on the bladder causing this.  It becomes a problem when you are urinating frequently and have pain, burning or any discomfort during urination.  Also, beware of a constant urge to go.  This could be from the baby’s position but could also be signs of a Urinary Tract Infection.  

Changes In Discharge:
You will find changes to vaginal discharge throughout your pregnancy.  Discharge is totally normal but watch out for any itching, burning or unusual odor that may be associated with the discharge.  Be sure to mention any changes to your doctor or midwife.

Prenatal Depression is something that is sometimes over looked.  How blue is too blue?  Being uncomfortable and miserable during pregnancy is normal depending on your situation.  If you find you are lethargic, having excessive mood swings, uncontrollable crying, and constantly feeling hopeless, you need to make sure you address this with your doctor or midwife immediately.


Be sure to monitor your nausea/vomiting.  If you are finding there is no relief and it is getting worse, it most likely is not just morning sickness.  The predictable spurts of nausea and vomiting that can be relieved would be classified as morning sickness.  If you are finding nothing will help and it is all day and all night with no let up, it could be hyperemesisTalk to you doctor immediately to see what you can do to help stay hydrated and as healthy as possible through your pregnancy.

Having swelling during your pregnancy can be normal, but it can also be a sign of some serious complications.  During pregnancy, all the hormonal changes will cause some water retention and minor swelling.  If you find any sudden swelling in your hands, feet, and/or face accompanied by headaches and/or blurred vision call your doctor or midwife immediately!  These are signs of a serious complication called preeclampsia.  You may also hear the terms, gestational hypertension, pregnancy induced hypertension or toxemia.

A huge sign of labor, contractions.  How do you know when they are real or not?  I kept asking my mom throughout my pregnancy, how will I know?  Her response was always..”you’ll know.”  It could not be more true.  I was in what is call inactive labor for 2 weeks prior to delivery.  Inactive labor is when you are have true contractions but not dilating.  Some women experience Braxton Hicks contractions, which are practice contractions, prior to real labor.  The Braxton Hicks can be uncomfortable but definitely are not the real deal!  I had Braxton Hicks which were tightening and slightly uncomfortable.  When the real thing hit, I couldn’t even speak when I was in a contraction.  It is a tough call of knowing when to go and when to stay.  Timing your contractions is important.  Contractions in early labor last from 30 to 60 seconds and will be 5 to 10 minutes apart.  Let you doctor or midwife know and they will guide you.

These are some just instances where it is hard to tell what is normal or not.  I hope this gives you some more information.  As I said before, when in doubt do not hesitate to call your doctor or midwife.  You can never be too safe when it comes to pregnancy.  So much is unknown so it is normal to question things going on with your body.


  1. What a great post. When I was pregnant with my first I stayed calling the doctor because I never knew what was normal and what was not. Thanks for linking up at #ThrowbackThursdayLP.

  2. This is great information for expecting mothers...I can't believe you had kidney stones while pregnant...I heard that is really painful.

  3. This is really helpful information. With my first I started getting nosebleeds, which was apparently pretty normal but I hadn't read about it anywhere. I totally freaked out!

  4. Thank y'all so much! There is so much unknown! Let me know anything about y'all experienced during your pregnancies. It is always great to hear from fellow mommas who were against "the norm" of what society says pregnancy should be.

  5. Wow, I wish I had this article when I was pregnant--to clarify my questions and calm my fears. Great information and honest presentation--I'll share this with anyone who's pregnant. (Found you through the HDYDI linkup.)

    1. Thanks so much! It was what I needed through my pregnancy. Why not share the knowledge! Did you have a difficult pregnancy?

  6. Really great post, would be so useful to anyone going through a first pregnancy especially. Clicked through to you from the HDYDI link up.

  7. I have pre term contractions with my pregnancies, real contractions that don't dilate the cervix prior to 37 wks, I started at 28, 26, & 22 wks, contracting every 30 - 40 min. Some doctors will give you medicine to stop them, others will say there is no need bc there is no cervical change. Ask for the meds! They make you sick but they let you sleep at night!

    1. Oh poor thing! That is awful. I know how that feels! I think the sleep deprivation was worse than the delivery! Thank you so much for sharing!

  8. I know with my first pregnancy I was concerned because I had some leg cramps that wasn't going away. But, thankfully it wasn't a blood clot and (of course) stopped the next day.

    Also, bleeding can happen within 24 hours of having sex, and is apparently pretty normal since there is so much extra pressure/blood in that area. ;)